Short Test - EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED (PERSONAL ‘BEING’ ENERGY)
1. I feel comfortable and safe when we are together, we both enjoy sharing and understanding each other’s personal feelings, freely and openly. We share a wide range of positive and negative emotions, we both feel heard when we talk, both share positive affirmations or strokes, validating each other, making time for each other, paying attention to each other. I feel emotionally connected.
2. I feel an intimate connection - I feel safe to reveal and share the deepest innermost parts of our personalities with each other, being truly vulnerable with each other, an unconditional ‘unafraid heartfelt connection’ (Sogyal Rinpoche) Our levels of self-disclosure, are similar and compatible. so we feel safe and can make it safe for each of us to confront problems affecting the relationship and reveal our underlying vulnerability to eachother. We can let go of our defences and surrender to love.
3. We share sensations - sharing the experience of what we are touching, seeing, hearing, smelling and tasting around us including sexual and non-sexual sensations
4. We share the joy of togetherness, a shared sense of deep loving, a romantic connection and affection, luminance, zing, the essence of love. Words can’t describe how I feel, I just light up and feel warm wonderful joyful feelings, I feel special when we are together or even just thinking about my partner, we use special names/words to express our love or endearment for each other
5. I feel safe with my partner when something triggers my underlying vulnerability - we each help nurture and reduce vulnerability for ourself and our partner, but not asking partner to take over protection of other person’s vulnerability. My inner child feels equally safe and secure when near my partner or when separated
6. Energetic intuitive linkage -we are linked intuitively, we have a special sense of a mutual energetic connection, a linkage even when apart, as described in “Partnering”
7. We share a spiritual connection (not the same as shared ‘religion’). We can both tune in and connect to the soul or spirit within us as well as the universal energy of positive love outside of us which joins us all. I am comfortable about exchanging this kind of (non-sexual) love with my close friends as well as my with my partner and I know my partner is comfortable about this kind of sharing too.
We share a similar philosophy about the meaning of life and similar or compatible visions for how we would like to grow together in the future
If you feel like a much more detailed test click here for the full test which compares the balance between love and committment in a relationship
